What did you expect?

What expectations did you have about your marriage before you ‘tied the knot?’

Last night our small group talked about marriage expectations. We all have expectations going into marriage. Most premarital expectations are unrealistic. Unfulfilled expectations in marriage will cause heartache and strain for couples. Proverbs 13:12 says, ‘Hope deferred makes the heart sick.’ Couples should communicate what they expect in their marriage and develop realistic expectations.

Realistic expectations, because they can be fulfilled, builds a marriage and makes brings great joy and satisfaction. The second half of Proverbs 13:12 says, 'but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.’

Another thought on expectations. Be sure that most of your expectations are placed on you and not your spouse. You should be more concerned about you being all that you can and should be for the one you are married to.

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:12)

Strong Foundations for Newlyweds

Gi and I are planning a six week small group study for newly married, soon-to-be married couples. We are praying for 4-6 couples. We want the time to be very casual and interactive so any more than that and it may turn into more of a lecture time. If we have more interest we might consider two groups. The topics we will cover are: having realistic expectations, developing good communication skills, instruction on how to fight fairly, and perspectives on sex, in-laws, and marriage mentors. If you are interested or know someone that may be, let me know. We will kick off the group February 12, 7:00-8:30.